Wednesday, June 29, 2011

To conform or not to conform







Conformity can go both ways really. It can do some good or just go terribly wrong and cause social haywire. 


The positive outcome of conforming can be minority influence. This is when a minority of group members influence the majority. However, this is only good is it's for a good cause, for example, spreading awareness of human trafficking in Canada. 
If you were with a group of nine people including yourself and you plus one other person positively influenced the rest of the members on the issue of human trafficking and the cruel and inhumane conditions the victims endure, this is minority influence. 


The negative outcome of conforming is what we see often in our daily lives. The Vancouver riot after the Canucks lost and the Toronto riot during the G20 summit. A group of anarchists in Toronto cause a ruckus but are we right to deny that they influenced some of our citizens to break windows and burn police cars?


Did 17 year old Water Polo player, Nathan Kotylak always secretly want to set police cars on fire? Did he see an opportunity during the Vancouver riot and go for it? I doubt it. He conformed. 
I don't know if Kotylak fits in to conforming to Informational Social Influence or Normative Social Influence, but he conformed. 




"When they give you ruled paper, 
write the OTHER way" -- Juan Ramone Jimenez




What we know for sure is, many of us would not like to be the one against conformity because we know what happens to the "deviants" who refuse to go with the flow. We're outcasted and marginalized. 


Take for example Krista Piche of the Canadian Forces who was raped by a petty officer in the military. Piche refused to conform with the "code of silence" and when she reported the incident, she was punished and by being forced to work along side the very man who raped her. 
If you can't imagine that, imagine how many times you publicly complied with the views of a large group although privately, you disagree just so you can avoid the retributions. 


The only time someone can be a "deviant" is really when they've earned something called idiosyncrasy credits. 
One earns these credits by conforming to groups norms time and time again. If enough credits are earned, occasionally, they can play the part of a "deviant" without retribution from the group. 


Interesting huh. ...


So conform or not to conform? 


I say do your research. 


Before you decide you agree, take into consideration the so-called leader's credibility (no I don't mean, idiosyncrasy credits) but ask, do they really know more about this than I do? Where are they coming from?
Check other sources, and I don't just mean google.
Importantly, know that resists conformity IS possible. 


Conformity without this research, in my opinion, is a dangerous weapon. 


How we live our lives and what we choose to believe doesn't only impact us, it's global. 


Before you utter the next homophobic comment because your friends do, before you urinate on a fence because you're friends think its funny, before you take part in some sort of action where an alarm goes off in your head as a warning.... THINK.

Tuesday, June 28, 2011

FOOD FOOD FOOD!



Anyone who knows me knows I can't resist food. And ice cream. Ice cream actually should be a food group. ... That's another story for another day. 

Toronto has some yummy delicious events coming up!

1. This week we have the 12th Annual Toronto Ribfest at Centennial Park (June 30th-July 3rd) 11am-11pm. You can see the list of vendors here [CHECK OUT MY PEOPLE "HEART BEATS TO"!! They will be there... Pick up a t-shirt or a tank :)]

2. On Saturday, July 2nd, an event called "Food Truck Eats" at the Distillery District is going on from 11am-3pm. I'm SOOOOO excited. What is really interesting about this event is that it celebrates the diversity of food that is available on the Toronto streets. People are rushing to go to work or at least get a good meal before they have to go back to work, that these food trucks are essential to the city. No? :)

What's AMAZING about this event is that all menu items are $5 or less. So... I'll be bringing CASH. You can see the event info here

Hungry yet?

3. Well next week, on the July 8th, 2011, Taste of Lawrence happens until July 10th on Lawrence Avenue East between Birchmount and Warden (Shoutout to all my Scarborough People... :P)

4. Summerlicious Menu!!: Yay! Summerlicious is here! I wish I could visit all participating restaurants... well, maybe I can :) I will definitely try and pay a visit to Spice Route on King Street, they have a great patio and great atmosphere. 


These are just SOME of the great food events happening in Toronto this Summer. You can look at further food or family events here

I'm going to work out at the gym starting .... NOW.


Bon Appetit!


Wednesday, June 22, 2011

A Dying Sport



Is track a dying sport? York Region District School Board seems to believe so. 

Markham District High School was established in 1858 and with all the wear and tear, it was rebuilt and opened in Fall of 2010. However, it was built without a track which drove parents, students and alumni to voice their concern. 

It is reported that with all of other budget and program cuts in talks during meetings, the issue of a track not being rebuilt along with the school was overlooked. Parents were told that track is a "dying sport" by the school board.

I understand that track may not be as popular as basketball, baseball and of course hockey in Canada. But one of the goals of Markham District High School is to "Provide a variety of sports, clubs and activities". The York Region School Board should maybe revise the goal to, "Provide a variety of the most popular sports, clubs and activities". 

It is reported that students who run track are now using hallways and parking lots to practice. Umm... really? Parking lots? Did the York Region School Board forget how dangerous that is? But, the students have been forced to basically resort to the use of the parking lots. They don't have a TRACK. Get it?

A dying sport or not, perhaps the encouragement of our high school students to participate in sports as much as possible is actually a good idea? (DUH)
Yes I know, the Body Mass Index was slightly altered sometime back so one day, some people were of average weight, then the next day they were overweight. But, the numbers don't lie. 23.9% of Canadian women and 24.3% of men in Canada are considered obese. 

In Ontario, one-third of the people are considered obese. Diabetes, heart disease, destroyed knees and strokes along with cancer and blood clots... so many health risks associated with lack of exercise. Yes, food intake and smoking takes up a portion of causes as well. 
But the students of Markham District High School are trying to participate in sports. And the school board is pretty much allowing them to resort to the parking lot. Where we park cars. That move. Really fast.

Markham District High School participates in events for Canadian Cancer Society (Cure for Cancer Campaign). Maybe the organization can talk some sense into them?

The students, parents and alumni are not asking for a brand spanking new pink bus with spinning rims on it (as fun that may seem, it's irrational), they are asking for a track to be rebuilt so that they can participate in this so-called dying sport.

Is that too much to ask?

Tuesday, June 21, 2011

TIFF in the Park



There are definitely some good movies out right now. I almost died of laughter when I saw Bridesmaid and Thor was AMAZING. But I love the old movies I watched during my childhood... You remember childhood? When you didn't have to worry about paying taxes and rent and cursing when the gas would go up by .2. ... Those were the days...

Well reminisce the tax-free, rent-free, free loading days every Wednesday at David Pecaut Square (formerly Metro Square) at King St. and Simcoe beside Roy Thompson Hall. 
Between July 6th and Aug 31st, Toronto International Film Festival and the Entertainment District BIA presents free outdoor movie showing. The showing starts at sunset (July: approx. 9pm, Aug: approx 8:30pm). 

"The potential of Toronto lies not so much within its architectural or economic or social possibilities as in what it could represent to the world as a place where amazing things get done"

Family favourites like Mary Poppins and the Sound of Music (the theatrical show was FAB) will be shown along with a sneak peek of the retrospective Raj Kapoor's "Jagte Raho" (meaning: "stay alert") dated back in 1956. Also showing are Wizard of Oz, Singing In The Rain and Funny Girl. 

David Pecaut was a cit-building guru and co-founder of the Luminato Festival. Metro Square was named after Pecaut back in April of this year. 
Pecaut, like myself, loved Toronto. Prior to his death, Pecaut urged Torontonians to ensure the city's future success. Pecaut Square is the cultural corridor from Art Gallery of Ontario to the Lake. 

I'm hoping to be there July 6th after my mid-term exam... I would definitely need the relaxation and entertainment. 

I sure hope the ice cream truck will be there.... .... Mmm.... Ice cream...

;)

Contacts:

Toronto Entertainment District
Email: info@torontoed.com
416-926-1337

For movie listings for TIFF in the Park click here






Sunday, June 19, 2011

Cuz HE Said So

The Best Father In The World





You know how when you were little, you thought your dad was the strongest man in the whole world?

Well mine is.

When I was in high school, one of the socially awkward guys in my grade commented that my dad looked like he was a part of some Asian Mafia.
Really?
Really.

He's actually the man that always greets you with a smile and last to say goodbye. His jokes aren't always funny, but you laugh because you know.. he's trying...

My father was never a stranger to determination, hard work and sacrifice. 
A man that ensured my brother and I had everything we needed and wanted without worrying about the price. 

He never asks for much either. He never expects gifts on Christmas or his birthday and never wants to celebrate. 
For a great while, I thought he was anti-social. I thought he was overbearing, overthinking and just all around work-a-holic. 

It wasn't until I was in my early 20s that I realized what he is all about. 

There are a few things my dad has said to me that I won't forget. 

5 years ago, it was, "Don't look at boys. Boys are bad. And stupid. They lie, cheat and steal your car"
Now it's, "When are you getting married?"

But one of the things he said to me that I took to heart was, "When you feel tired and exhausted from school or work or whatever, just think about me".
At the time, I thought it meant, "Think about how much I'm gonna kick your ass if you drop out of school".

I realized that it meant, remember how hard he works and how many sacrifices he made. Compared to what he has given up, me giving up a few hours of sleep to do some extra studying is NOTHING.

Compared to what he has done for me and my brother, how many aches, pains and colds he has endured working 365 days a week (seriously, he doesn't take a day off), me working some extra hours at work is NOTHING.

The days of him struggling to walk up the stairs and rubbing his feet after standing all day at work... The days of him falling asleep sitting up and eating while driving because he didn't have time to sit and have a meal... That's what he meant.

I regret not realizing the lessons he was trying to teach me earlier in my time... 

But I know them now. And I'll do it. Cuz he said so.

Happy Father's Day Dad :)

Thursday, June 16, 2011

Never Too Old

Leo Plass Now (left) and in 1932 (right)



A few days ago, 99 year old Leo Plass received his college diploma from Eastern Oregon University in La Grande. Due to the Great Depression in the 30s, Plass dropped out of College in 1932 to pursue a job opportunity in a logging outfit. Plass was one semester away from graduating and starting a career as a teacher. However, back in the Dirty Thirties, teaching jobs paid $80 per month. When a friend offered him a spot at the logging outfit for $150 per month, Plass couldn't pass it up.

If you saw an old man in your class sitting there taking notes and answering questions, what would you think? Are you sure that the first thought in your mind wouldn't be, "What's he doing here"?

If I saw a 99 year-old man in my Social Stats lecture, I would definitely have taken a second look, wondering what he's doing in the lecture hall. I probably wouldn't have smiled at the thought that he felt being 99 years old meant nothing, education is education.

Graduate: Leo Plass


Plass is right. Even if we graduate with a Ph.D., we don't really stop learning. Life teaches us everyday.
So why not go back to school?

I wouldn't doubt that there are plenty of grown adults out there that feel discouraged to go back to school because they either feel "out-of-touch" or too old to be in a sea of 20 something year olds. Basically, Plass just said... Ah eff it, and he went.
Last semester, we had a 46 year old man in our psychology class. Often times, people in the area who are just curious about certain subjects will look up the lecture schedule and attend a lecture, just to learn. So we didn't think much of it.
Midterm comes around and he's sitting next to me. He had no clue what to do with the scantron, so I told him. He looked flustered, nervous and out of his element. I overheard students behind him snickering and rolling their eyes like, "Who doesn't know what a scantron is?"...

Show-offs...

Final exam time comes around and the man is more confident than ever. After getting used to the routine of attending University, he realized it wasn't so bad.

Whatever your age is, whatever reason you never attended/never finished college, at the end of the day, who really cares what anyone says?

At the end of the day, aren't you the one with a diploma?

Tuesday, June 7, 2011

Walk for AUTISM







Join me on June 26th, 2011 at Nathan Phillip Square for Walk Now For Autism Speaks (Toronto). This 7th Annual walk has a goal this year of $850,000 and so far, we are at only 26%!
I am joining a team along with some coworkers to walk the 4km from 9am until 12:30pm! *Starts stretching*


You don't need a sponsor but to reach the goal, any amount helps! Each walker than raises $150+ receive a Walk for Autism Speaks T-Shirt. 
I'm walking for all my little babies at the group home with or without Autism :) Who will you be walking for?
There will also be a play land for children making this a family friendly event!


Many people don't know very much about Autism and if you're one of those people, this is your chance to learn, be aware and spread awareness. 
For those of you outside of Toronto, other walks are happening in your area. Check the Autism Speaks Website now to register or donate. 


This event is sponsored by Toy R Us and Babies R Us!


Registration & All Activity Opens: 8:30 am
Opening Ceremonies: 9:45 am
Walk Starts: 10:00 am (short 3 km walk on flat route)
Closing Ceremonies: 11:30 am
Event Close: 12:00 Noon


Nathan Phillips Square
100 Queen Street West
Toronto, Ontario
June 26th, 2011 (Sunday)
9am-12:30pm

Wednesday, June 1, 2011

Sing for LIFE!



If you know me, you're know I'm not a fan of karaoke (why conform to the stereotype that all Asian people love karaoke... HAHAHA... JK) 
Anyway, My great friend Kalie Tarala has been doing amazing work to raise awareness and funds for Women's Cancer. 

On May 7th, 2011, I was able to attend "Matinee to End Women's Cancers". This time, forget the movie! Sing your heart out! Or as the facebook invite says... If you don't want to sing, let's just sit and laugh at the people that will be singing. At the same time, you will be supporting another weekend to end women's cancers.  I'm up for that. I'm actually hoping my best friends will come with me and if I bother them enough, they'll sing a Mariah Carey song. It's sooooo going up on YouTube.


Please visit the facebook invite for more information and message Kalie Tarala for further details (AND FOR TICKETS!)

I will be attending this event... I will see you there :)

Location:
180 Yorkland Blvd. 
Toronto, Ontario

Date and Time:
June 18th, 2011 - Saturday
6pm-12:30am